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In which we deal with the fact that the calendar and the earth DO NOT AGREE!
Jezebel: Wacky Tradition of Leap Day Allows Women to Ask Men Out
In which I wrote the following comment, which I reproduce her for FEMINISM! And romance, and some laziness.
"Yeah, Leap Day is cool for calendar reasons but kind of silly for dictating the actions of humans.
"I proposed to my fiance in late October two years ago, because the ring I bought for him was faster to make than the ring he bought for me. I got down on one knee and his immediate response? "Nooo! You were supposed to wait so we could do dueling proposals!" And then he said yes.
"Of course, this did come after I asked him on public transport, "So, I wanna marry you- why aren't we married yet?" (Don't surprise people with proposals! Check and make sure they want to marry you first! If you can't lay the groundwork, don't pop the question!)
"But, my proposal seems to surprise people. Lots of people ask about how *he* proposed, and no one has ever preceded that with a question of *who* proposed. And then I get to feeling like the person is now making all sorts of judgements about me and how I'm pushy and annoying and stole his moment of manly romanticalness by my harpyish hyphenated-last-name-having feminazi ways.
"And then I remember that, instead of being missish and dancing around someone I wanted hoping that he would read my mind, I got engaged instead. Woohoo!"
Yeah, I'm pretty happy with my decision there.
Jezebel: Wacky Tradition of Leap Day Allows Women to Ask Men Out
In which I wrote the following comment, which I reproduce her for FEMINISM! And romance, and some laziness.
"Yeah, Leap Day is cool for calendar reasons but kind of silly for dictating the actions of humans.
"I proposed to my fiance in late October two years ago, because the ring I bought for him was faster to make than the ring he bought for me. I got down on one knee and his immediate response? "Nooo! You were supposed to wait so we could do dueling proposals!" And then he said yes.
"Of course, this did come after I asked him on public transport, "So, I wanna marry you- why aren't we married yet?" (Don't surprise people with proposals! Check and make sure they want to marry you first! If you can't lay the groundwork, don't pop the question!)
"But, my proposal seems to surprise people. Lots of people ask about how *he* proposed, and no one has ever preceded that with a question of *who* proposed. And then I get to feeling like the person is now making all sorts of judgements about me and how I'm pushy and annoying and stole his moment of manly romanticalness by my harpyish hyphenated-last-name-having feminazi ways.
"And then I remember that, instead of being missish and dancing around someone I wanted hoping that he would read my mind, I got engaged instead. Woohoo!"
Yeah, I'm pretty happy with my decision there.
