Yeah, electronics and relationships do not mesh well sometimes. (Though I'm glad it didn't turn you off lj permanently- it's nice to hear from you, and I've known people to flee the blogosphere for far less painful stupidity.)

I'm not so much sad over the end of the relationship, but more of my own *idea* of who she was and how our friendship was going to be in the future. I mean, doing this seriously damages the worth of her friendship in my eyes (not that I wouldn't want to reconcile, but enough that I would be very wary of her in the future)- this wouldn't have happened in the version of our relationship in my head. That there was such a big gap between the image and the reality... maybe I didn't really know her that well.

Fortunately, the people I've talked to so far about this have generally been as confused about it as me, and they don't seem to be engaging in Herd-Girl 'shun the nonbeliever' style. I actually feel like I've been getting a lot of support, both from people who know all the parties involved, and those who just know me. So, while it's sucky to have one friend bail on me, I feel comforted by the fact that so many others are still here.

Anyhoo, time heals all wounds, and wounds all heels, so distance and perspective seem like the operative goals here.