Hey man, for the record--this same thing happened to me the first month or so of my senior year at swelles. Except, it was a whole group of friends instead of just one, and they posted on their livejournals instead of telling me personally. Totally nuts.
Two things may help--first of all, the end of any relationship is hard. In our culture, we tend to idolize romantic relationships, so breaking up with an SO is often accompanied by people coddling us and sympathizing. Try to think of this friend breaking up with you as similar to a break up with an SO, just so you can allow yourself to feel sad about it an stuff.
Secondly, in retrospect, I was living a very emotionally unhealthy lifestyle when I was best friends with those women, and no longer spending time with them left me with a significantly less toxic environment in which to live. Though I still miss the friendships I had with almost all of them (and am still like, WTF mate? at their essentially breaking up with me over livejournal), I can recognize that they were big on the hate, and releasing that hate allowed my senior year at Wellesley to be much, much more fun that it would have been.
So I'm just saying--perhaps in time, though the sting will still be there, you'll be able to understand that this end is a good thing, especially if the person in question thinks it's appropriate to break up with people over firstclass (seriously, wtf).
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Date: 2008-01-19 04:33 pm (UTC)Two things may help--first of all, the end of any relationship is hard. In our culture, we tend to idolize romantic relationships, so breaking up with an SO is often accompanied by people coddling us and sympathizing. Try to think of this friend breaking up with you as similar to a break up with an SO, just so you can allow yourself to feel sad about it an stuff.
Secondly, in retrospect, I was living a very emotionally unhealthy lifestyle when I was best friends with those women, and no longer spending time with them left me with a significantly less toxic environment in which to live. Though I still miss the friendships I had with almost all of them (and am still like, WTF mate? at their essentially breaking up with me over livejournal), I can recognize that they were big on the hate, and releasing that hate allowed my senior year at Wellesley to be much, much more fun that it would have been.
So I'm just saying--perhaps in time, though the sting will still be there, you'll be able to understand that this end is a good thing, especially if the person in question thinks it's appropriate to break up with people over firstclass (seriously, wtf).