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kitewithfish) wrote2012-03-05 12:46 pm
kitewithfish) wrote2012-03-05 12:46 pm
Hunting for a Quote
I know I've read this in a book on American religion in last hundred years (I think.)
"You have to do a lot of work before you can get to a point where you actually disagree." The author was making the point that religious folks, or folk in any kind of argument, often think they are disagreeing when in reality they are simply talking past each other. Neither hears what the other has to say, or why, or why it matters. To get to a point where you actually know enough about the other person to really understand what they mean and disagree with takes much much longer than merely shouting at each other.
"You have to do a lot of work before you can get to a point where you actually disagree." The author was making the point that religious folks, or folk in any kind of argument, often think they are disagreeing when in reality they are simply talking past each other. Neither hears what the other has to say, or why, or why it matters. To get to a point where you actually know enough about the other person to really understand what they mean and disagree with takes much much longer than merely shouting at each other.